What you look is what you see. Always look at the positives and focus on what your spouse is doing right, instead of focusing so often on the negative traits.
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things arehonest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; ifthere be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” – Philippians 4: 8
“Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In every thing thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” – 1Thessalonians 5: 16-18
“Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. Abstain from all appearance of evil.” – 1Thessalonians 5: 21-22